The thing about fear

  1. Read it out loud.
  2. Say out loud how this problem is making me feel. This helps me make note of my feelings. I have tried to suppress my feelings before, and it never works. This usually helps me to understand more about the problem and starts calming my nerves.
  3. What can I do right now to calm myself? I pray, sing, and dance. I sing horribly but this helps me clear my mind so that I am not just focused on the problem at hand but I pretend I am a great singer on stage. Its really quite freeing. LOL
  4. What can I do right now about this problem in specific? This could really just be, nothing. There is freedom in knowing that somethings don’t always have to be controlled. Sometimes, waiting is all we could do. This could be calling someone, or this could be physically doing something. I have realized that sometimes we blow problems out of proportion. We let the anxiety take control of our minds to the point we believe the problem is bigger than us. That we have no control or power over it. But when I start dissecting my feelings as well as looking at the problem with a clear focus, I start to see that I have the authority to calm the waters around me. Sometimes you think you are sinking, but you just need to step out of the boat and walk on water.

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