“Where did the time go?”

Have you ever found yourself saying this? Thinking to yourself, where did the day go? The concept of time is different for everyone. Some feel that the best use of their time is filling their day with as many things as possible. From dawn until dusk they plan their days with goals and objectives, and most likely have a checklist of 50 things they want to accomplish all in one day. They make sure to leave an extra few minutes at the end of the day to make a new list of things to do for the next day, alas the cycle continues. This gives them a sense of accomplishment. A sense of wow, I did so much. I know this from first hand experience because I can be like that sometimes. Others go with the flow. They don’t plan their days out so strictly or feel its necessary to make a checklist of the things they want to get done. Some people might see them as lazy (I can be one of those people) but they feel accomplished. They have a sense of wow, I did what I had to do.

Which is better? I really don’t have an answer for that because I have struggled in finding the healthy spot that lies between these two perspectives. Everyone uses their time however they want. Because some might see that its better to wake up really early, they might look at others that wake up later in the day as lazy or wasting their time. We are all subject to time. This is one of the similarities we all have. Time goes on for everyone no matter who you are.

I used to think I needed to be like the person that accomplishes 50 things in one day. That wakes up at 6am, works out, cleans, works, makes food, all before 12pm. It’s this unrealistic expectation. Your use of your time should not reflect someone else’s priorities. You shouldn’t feel bad because your schedule isn’t filled to the brim with activities and errands you see someone else doing on social media.

I think its important to get things done. I mean as an adult, there is always something to do. But if there is anything that I have learned from my husband, is that sometimes, we should just do nothing. When I first heard him tell me this I thought, you are weird and the complete opposite of me. But in reality, even though time goes on for everyone and we can’t stop it, we can decide what we do with it.

Don’t feel pressured to fill out this lengthy checklist, and definitely do not feel disappointed if you are not able to accomplish everything on that list.

If I do one thing in a day that brings me happiness, I know I have accomplished something. Don’t let today go by without taking care of yourself for a change. Dance, sing loud in the shower, eat ice cream, get into a nerf gun battle with your family, whatever you want. Stop trying to be like the next person you clicked on when scrolling through Instagram for the 10th time in the day.